Love in the Time of Quarantine
This is life in quarantine: a constant barrage of bad news on the TV and we are stuck in our houses, filled with anxiety. What is going to happen next, who do we know that might be affected, how long will this go on? We are stuck inside with each other all the time, every day. These are times that will try all of our relationships. However, we cannot forget to work on the relationship with the person closest to us…our spouse.
These next few weeks/months are going to be stressful, but that is no excuse to stop loving your better half. Now, more than ever, we have to make this relationship a priority. Here are some ideas for “dating” at home.
Learn each other’s Love Language– This is actually two ideas bundled into one. The first part is to read together one of the best relationship books: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, More than anything, it is fun to read it together and learn something about each other. Once you know each other’s love language, you will know how to keep the love tanks full during this time of quarantine. You will not believe what you learn about each other and the difference this knowledge can make in your relationship, even if you have been married for decades.
Cook together- One thing is for sure, many of us will be cooking a lot more than usual during quarantine. It is also a great time to try a new recipe. Go into the kitchen, pour a drink, turn on some music and talk while you prepare the meal. This will allow you to work together and possibly learn new skills.
Have a dance party- Clear the floor, turn up the music, dim the lights and DANCE. Not only is this a great way to exercise, it allows you to hold your partner close. Play songs that were popular when the two of you were dating. It will bring back good memories…and may even lead to something else. It’s all good.
Movie Night- Find a movie on the television or your streaming service and commit to sitting down together–without phones–and enjoy it. Yes, our phones are our connection to the outside world at this time but put it away. Connect with your partner. Cuddle up on a couch, bring a snack and spend time just being together without saying a word. Remember how that feels?
These are just a few ideas. It is time to get creative. You can make a date out of cleaning if you wanted to! This difficult time of quarantine can also be an opportunity. Find time to love your spouse. Once we return to normalcy, your relationship will be stronger!
By Chris Beach
Chris Beach is the Executive Director of the Relationship Foundation of Virginia. He lives in Henrico County with his wife of 16 years and four boys. He is a life-long Richmonder and loves to help couples strengthen their relationships, encourage dads to be active in the lives of their children, and teach youth about the fears and joys of healthy relationships. For more information about the Relationship Foundation of VA, go to www.rfva.org.